Same-Sex Marriage in VA
So this is by no means complete or even exactly where I want this peice to go. But it's a start. Bear with me please.........
Love is a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. (E) The most important word in the definition for love is the word “person”. Most people want to experience love. The type of love that we see depicted in films, the love that comes from fairy tales, and people want the type of love that is everlasting. Not everyone wants their love to blossom into marriage, but again so many people do. Little girls dream of their wedding day before they even understand how love works. Marriage is normally the next step after love, but what does the word marriage mean? The first definition that arrives for the word marriage is this: the legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife. (E) The last definition for marriage is: a union between two persons having the customary but usually not the legal force of a marriage; a same sex marriage. (E) This should not come as a shock that marriage is supposed to happen between a man and a woman. Our society sets this idea into the youth of America at a very early age. We see Barbie and Ken dolls that fall in love, the prince saving the princess who happens to live happily ever after, and all the while it begins to be completely normal that only a man and woman should marry. Even though same-sex marriage is brought up as the last alternative to the meaning of marriage, it’s still there. This is a huge improvement from the days (I have to look up when that definition came into websters) when same-sex marriage was not even acknowledged. Our society is beginning to move forward, accepting same-sex marriage as any other marriage that occurs. The state of Virginia has not become so accustomed to the idea. Throughout my research I will be trying to figure out the problems with same-sex marriage in Virginia, and working to prove them wrong.
Virginia is very secretive when making decisions against same-sex marriage. While reading the “Roanoke Times” I noticed the perfect description of how the House of Delegates works with this issue, “they quietly passed the amendment prohibiting same-sex marriage”. Quietly is the worst way to handle this issue which is no longer quiet. Our society is becoming more accepting to the idea of gay marriage, and more gays and lesbians feel comfortable enough to “come out”. Therefore it is not the best idea to try and keep something as important as same-sex marriage a secret. (B) The proposed amendment to Aritcle one the constitution states that “only a union between on man and one woman may be a marriage valid in or recognized by this Commonwealth and its political subdivisions”. (B) Virginia’s governor Tim Kaine also supports the idea that a marriage should be between a man and woman. So what is next for Virginia? Equality Virginia is the states largest gay rights group who are working to keep the issue of same-sex marriage alive. On January 25, 2006 nearly 500 gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and allied Virginians participated in the Equality Lobby Day. This is just another step that concerned members of this state are doing for equal rights for same-sex marriages. (F)
Not only are adults becoming more active in the fight for equality, but also young adults at Virginia Tech. Even though only 60 some students attended the rally it is important to even recognize that young adults are finally taking a stand for same-sex marriage. (Need more research for other colleges and their groups fighting for same-sex marriage) Tech Students Liz Ford and Maddy Barnes held an old marriage manual that stated… “Whites may marry whites only,” and prohibited epileptics and, “idiots, imbeciles, and the insane” from marrying. (D) Our nation has worked over the years to get past racism and now signs like that held by Ford and Barnes seem outdated. Hopefully in the future these amendments to our constitution prohibiting same-sex marriage will also seem outdated and outrageous. Right now though the battle continues on.
What is it that is so scary about allowing same-sex couples to marry? After researching the topic, some common themes arose to answer the question. “If we allow gays to marry what’s next, incest, or those who are in love with their pets.” After viewing this statement it became more obvious how many people confuse same-sex marriage with illegal issues. Two men who are in love have absolutely nothing in common with two people committing incest. Of course there are people who believe that they are in love with a family member, or their goat, but just because these types of people exist does not mean same-sex marriages should not be allowed. Same-sex marriage and incest are apples and oranges; these topics are so different that they should not ever be compared to one another. This statement is easier said than done. People fear the unknown and change, it has always been this way. To help those in Virginia get past this obstacle it is great to see groups actively protesting their rights for marriage. The more people see gays and lesbians and become more acclimated with their presence, the easier it will be to see articles pushing for same-sex marriage. The times are slowly changing, and same-sex marriage will gradually work its way into Virginia.
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